About Therapy With Me:
I provide men’s therapy in Ventura County for teens and adults who feel lonely, emotionally disconnected, numb, anxious, or stuck holding everything together. I also offer couples therapy for partners experiencing distance, recurring arguments, trouble communicating or difficulty coming together again after fights.I conduct both in-person and Telehealth sessions.
My Story
I became a therapist because I know what it is like to carry a lot, keep it together, while struggling underneath and feeling alone.
For a long time, I relied on independence, self-control, and pushing through. Those strategies helped me function, succeed, and handle a lot on my own. But they also came with a cost: pressure kept building, I felt more alone in what I was carrying, and there was more tension in my relationships.
Therapy gave me a different kind of experience: a place where I did not have to keep performing, explain everything away, or carry it all by myself. It helped me understand the pressure, shutdown, and patterns underneath of what I was experiencing.
That experience changed my life and shaped the way I work with men today.
My Background
Schools, etc.
Do any of the following sound familiar of you or teen boy in your household?
Men-
Do you feel like you don’t have many close friends or feel like a fraud?
Do you feel the effects of burnout?
How about feeling stuck in life like this life isn’t what you thought it would be/signed up for?
Do you experience Anger and frustration with life constantly bubbling up?
Do you feel like you have to stay in control or everything would fall apart?
Do you always feel like you have to be the “reliable one” the “strong one” you can’t ever let them see you sweat?
Do you do a good job of holding that mask on but meanwhile you feel tense, numb, alone, or like you don’t want to let people in?
Do you feel pressure to succeed because you feel that’s where your worth and value comes from. Like if you don’t perform to a certain level, you aren’t successful?
Do you feel like no matter how hard you try, it’s still not enough?
Do you avoid vulnerability (show no “weakness”)?
Many of us were taught growing up that we cannot show weakness. We cannot be “soft” and emotions = weakness, so what you’re feeling gets minimized or hidden until you finally shutdown, blowup or feeling like running to distance yourself.
Teens/Young Men-
Do you or your teenager seem to have a “short fuse?” Anger boils up fast, defensiveness kicks in, argument escalate rapidly, even when you don’t want them to?
Is it hard to navigate a relationship with your teenage son (child – parent relationship issues)?
Does your teen have trouble navigating the difficulties of being a teen boy in today’s world including using social media and videogames?
Do they have difficulty making and sustaining friendships with their male peers?
Are emotional outbursts common?
Does your teenager seem to have a “short fuse?” Anger boils up fast, defensiveness kicks in, argument escalate rapidly and you aren’t sure how to help them?
Men in Relationships-
Are you having problems communicating with your partner?
Do you feel Nothing you do is enough?
You just want peace but instead you’re always arguing with no end in sight?
Are you accused of being “emotionally unavailable” or feel like you can’t connect with your partner anymore?
Are you feeling overwhelmed by your partner’s needs or requests?
Men’s Struggles and Relationships
As men, our internal struggles rarely stay contained within one person. When we lack the emotional tools (tools we were never taught), that pain often ripples into our relationships—not from a lack of care, but from disconnection.
In couples therapy, we slow things down and look at these patterns as they unfold in real time. The goal is not to assign blame, but to understand what’s happening between you and create space for understanding, repair, and reconnection.
Therapy for Men Who Feel Disconnected
My approach is relational, trauma-informed, and integrative. We work together and rather than focusing only on symptoms or coping strategies, therapy focuses on restoring connection—to yourself, to others, and to what feels meaningful again.
Most men I work with don’t feel “broken,” they feel tired of coping. You may understand this. Life may look fine on the outside; you are successful and have all the things you’ve always wanted, but inside there is a void, – a growing sense of disconnection from yourself and others that no amount of success or wealth can bridge.
This is not quick-fix therapy or skills coaching.
It’s careful, human work for people ready to slow down and feel more alive and like the person they want to be.
Many men come to therapy not because something is “wrong,” but because something feels off.
Often as men, we are highly functional—career, parenting, showing up—while feeling emotionally flat, tense, irritable, or shut down inside. We have learned to cope by not “showing weakness,” shove these feelings down, staying busy, or carrying stress alone. Those strategies once helped but over time, they can lead to anxiety, anger, numbness, or relationship strain, loneliness and burnout.
You’re not broken.
You adapted… And it doesn’t work well as it used to.
Men’s therapy offers a space to understand those adaptations without blame or shame—and to help you develop a more connected way of relating to yourself and others.